Helping Relationships Thrive

Building the capacity of the people, organizations, and systems that support children and families.


Children thrive when they are surrounded by adults who feel supported, capable, and connected. Families thrive when they are understood and empowered. Professionals thrive when they are given opportunities to think critically, deepen their skills, strengthen reflective capacity, and continue growing throughout their careers. Organizations thrive when they invest in leadership, learning, and relationships.

Healthy relationships are the foundation of healthy development.

For more than twenty years, I have partnered with families, clinicians, supervisors, organizational leaders, universities, hospitals, child welfare systems, foundations, and state and national initiatives to strengthen the people and systems that support infants, young children, and their caregivers.

My work integrates specialized clinical expertise with workforce development, leadership development, implementation support and technical assistance, organizational capacity building, and professional education. Whether I am providing psychotherapy to a family, facilitating a Learning Collaborative, mentoring supervisors, consulting with executive leadership, or supporting statewide implementation of evidence-informed practice, my focus remains the same: helping people build the knowledge, confidence, critical thinking, and reflective capacity needed to create lasting change.

Because when we strengthen the adults who care for children, we strengthen children’s lives.

Areas of Practice

Clinical Services

I maintain a limited clinical practice because direct work with children and families keeps every aspect of my teaching, consultation, and leadership grounded in real clinical experience.

Clinical services include Child-Parent Psychotherapy (CPP), Perinatal Child-Parent Psychotherapy (PCPP), infant and early childhood mental health, pregnancy and the transition to parenthood, trauma and medical trauma, developmental and attachment concerns, family consultation, implementation of clinical recommendations, and professional case consultation.

Whether supporting families through adversity, strengthening parent-child relationships, or helping professionals think through complex clinical situations, my work is guided by respect, curiosity, and the belief that relationships are the foundation of healing.

Clinical & Workforce Capacity Building

Strong services begin with a strong workforce.

Building professional capacity is about far more than increasing knowledge or teaching a model. It is about creating the conditions in which people develop critical thinking, integrate new ideas, strengthen clinical judgment, tolerate complexity, and continue growing throughout their careers.

I partner with organizations to design learning experiences that are intellectually rigorous, clinically relevant, and grounded in reflection. Through customized professional education, Learning Collaboratives, reflective consultation, and ongoing partnership, I help clinicians, supervisors, and interdisciplinary teams build the confidence and competence needed to translate knowledge into everyday practice.

Areas of expertise include:

·       Child-Parent Psychotherapy (CPP)

·       Perinatal Child-Parent Psychotherapy (PCPP)

·       Infant & Early Childhood Mental Health

·       Reflective Practice

·       Reflective Supervision

·       Infant and Early Childhood Trauma

·       Medical Trauma

·       Child Welfare

·       Facilitating Attuned Interactions (FAN)

·       DC:0–5™

·       Circle of Security®

·       Attachment Vitamins

·       Adult Learning

·       Workforce Development

Implementation Support & Technical Assistance

Successful implementation is fundamentally about people.

Organizations do not implement new practices—people do. Clinicians, supervisors, leaders, and teams are the ones who translate new knowledge into everyday relationships with children and families. Sustainable implementation requires more than excellent training. It requires thoughtful planning, reflective leadership, implementation support, technical assistance, and ongoing opportunities to learn together.

I partner with organizations to support implementation planning, readiness assessment, fidelity, workforce development, Learning Collaboratives, leadership consultation, organizational capacity building, strategic planning, and sustainability. Together, we create practical, relationship-centered approaches that strengthen implementation while honoring the unique culture and strengths of each organization.

Leadership Development

Healthy organizations depend on reflective leadership.

Leadership is more than managing people or programs. It is the ability to create environments where professionals feel safe to think, collaborate, learn, and grow.

I work with supervisors, managers, directors, executive leaders, and interdisciplinary teams to strengthen reflective leadership, support workforce well-being, navigate organizational challenges, and build healthy workplace cultures. Together, we develop leadership practices that strengthen teams while keeping children and families at the center of every decision..

Speaking & Professional Education

I provide keynote presentations, conference workshops, customized agency training, leadership retreats, webinars, and professional education throughout the United States and internationally.

Every presentation combines current research, clinical expertise, reflective practice, and practical application. Participants leave with new knowledge, stronger critical thinking skills, practical strategies, and greater confidence in their work with children, families, and one another.

Professional Leadership

My work spans clinical practice, workforce development, implementation, leadership, and systems change.

Professional leadership roles include serving as a Senior National Trainer for Child-Parent Psychotherapy (CPP), a member of the CPP Global Steering Committee, an international reflective consultant, a trainer in Facilitating Attuned Interactions (FAN) and DC:0–5™, and a Circle of Security® Facilitator. I am an active leader within state, national, and international infant and early childhood mental health organizations and contribute to curriculum development, implementation initiatives, workforce development, Learning Collaboratives, and professional education.

Whether you are seeking specialized clinical services, customized professional education, leadership development, implementation support and technical assistance, organizational consultation, or workforce capacity building, I welcome the opportunity to partner with you.

Together, we can strengthen the people, relationships, and systems that help children and families thrive.

Let’s Work Together

Let’s Work Together

Testimonials

  • Lili has been a great resource for the CPP community. Lili is an amazing clinician who provided us with a wealth of information, quality reflective supervision and support. Lili is very knowledgeable, empathic, kind, and supportive. I am thankful and grateful to have met her and be a part of the weekly CPP consultation calls, she has helped us find the words needed as we all try to make sense of this new normal. Having her insight has been crucial during this transition to telehealth. COVID-19 has changed the way we live, we practice and we support one another, and Lili has helped us make this transition while maintaining CPP fidelity.

    — Yohaira F., Psychotherapist

  • Working with Lili in consultation provides me with clarity on the direction of my work, an opportunity to think about cases reflectively, and confidence in knowing I'm providing families with quality care. My work has improved immensely through consultation.

    — Abby R., Psychotherapist

  • I had the privilege to be a peer and supervisee of Lili Gray from 2006 to 2015. Lili is a gifted diagnostician who is able to use those skills to formulate solid treatment plans and implement evidence based treatment. She is able to develop and sustain strong therapeutic alliances with her clients by displaying a combination of confidence and thoughtfulness. Lili has a keen sense about the timing of her interventions and is able to prepare clients so that they are able to take in and process difficult material. She is attuned to the feeling states of her clients and uses this information to deepen the therapeutic alliance. Lili is both a natural leader and a valuable team player. While Lili has demonstrated the strong ability to work with clients across the life span, her passion lies in her work with the 0-5 population.

    — Debbie D. Psychotherapist

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